Jab, Jab, Jab, Right Hook?

I have long believed that the way to succeed when selling products and solutions is to become someone that is counted on and trusted to do the right thing. In other words, your prospects believe that you, as the seller, actually care that what you sell does no harm to their business or their career. Perhaps I am old fashioned that way.

That’s why I am bothered - as I often am - when I read about someone with influence who espouses tactics that are self-serving and designed to ultimately “get something”. Maybe on the surface that’s ok if you are quite aware of what the person is doing, but what if you aren’t?

I have followed Gary Vaynerchuk for years, and I have always admired him, but today that admiration dimmed after reading an article about him called Riding the Hashtag in Social Media Marketing. Certainly nice press for Gary in the New York Times piece, but I fear that the approach Gary is peddling doesn’t bode well for those of us in sales.

Throughout my selling career, my “giving first” attitude has served me well. It is the way to creating trusting relationships that lead to sales opportunities (and other things in life). And I don’t disagree that at a certain point, when you’ve created enough equity, something Stephen Covey called making deposits to the emotional bank account of someone else, it is perfectly OK to ask for something. As a matter of fact, I just talked about the value there is in giving to receive in Monday’s keynote at the Microsoft Dynamics CRM 2013 launch party held at the Guggenheim in New York.

What I don’t like is the formula that Gary is promoting - to legions of followers who hang on his every word - which in his own words goes like this…. “Jab, jab, jab, right hook means give, give, give, ask.” On surface that seems pretty harmless until you come to know that what he really means and is quoted as saying often is… “A funny thing happens when you give value up front, you guilt people into buying stuff.”

Guilt people into buying stuff? Dear lord, sales people already have an image problem and there’s Gary out there telling people who sell – and the marketers that hire his company to promote their products and services - to follow a process of pretend giving so they can feel perfectly justified in making people feel guilty enough to buy something from them. This is as ridiculous to me as the promotion of the concept of Social Debt being pandered by Sales Benchmark Index.

Ok, sure it sounds cool to be able to ask Gary for something random that he will deliver; i.e. shipping a hamburger to the guy who asked for one, but in my humble opinion this entire philosophy is just one more selfishly motivated stunt.

On the other hand, Gary is rich and famous; I’m not. His business employs 290 employees, his revenues are pretty envious and he is being paid millions to write the ten books he’s under contract to produce. Hard to argue that his way hasn’t led to a great deal of business success for him.

But is there a price?

Perhaps not to Gary, but what about the companies that buy from him? Executives often hang on his every word of advice, and I wonder at what point his advice will actually be damaging to the brands that hire his team. If consumers don’t trust advertising now, what will happen when they realize that once again big business is simply out to manipulate them? That’s what Gary is selling and the only difference is the channels used.

Look, I’m no Pollyanna. I’m in business to make money too; otherwise, I wouldn’t be in business. But I’m not motivated by money, and I’ll sacrifice revenue in order to conduct business in a way that I think is honorable, credible and trustworthy. The day will never come when I resort to trying to manipulate people for personal gain, and I hope that day doesn’t come for you either!

4 thoughts on “Jab, Jab, Jab, Right Hook?

  1. Barbara- we advise our clients to build up social debt with their prospects in 5 ways:

    1- introduce them to a dream prospect of theirs
    2- help them with a personal job search
    3- introduce them to a qualified job candidate for an open position they are trying to fill
    4- generate professional visibility for them
    5- connect them with a professional peer

    Why do you feel doing these things for customers is a bad thing?

    When my clients have followed my advice, and performed these activities for their prospects, they received thank you notes.

    I don’t understand why you would criticize this.

    How is this any different than Covey’s “relationship deposits”, which has been an accepted best practice for 2 decades?

    • Greg - I am familiar with your concept of Social Debt. I don’t like the term or what it implies. Just like I take exception to GaryV suggesting that you give to “guilt” people into purchasing, I don’t like the philosophy of giving so that someone “owes you something”. The things you’ve noted are all fine to do; I do them myself. But I do not consciously practice a process of giving a specific number of times in order to be owed something in return. In other words, I’m not keeping score. And I may help someone 3 times, but perhaps they are not in the best position to return the favor at that point in time. In the end, I give to people knowing that it will come back around at some future point. I don’t worry about being owed anything. While our belief in helping others is similar, my perspective regarding the debt thing is different.

      • Barbara- I think we are saying the same thing. Maybe the terminology is the issue. “Debt” to some is a negative. It is to you. “Debt” is a positive term to others, such as a CEO. For example, when a CEO gets funding from a PE firm, it is debt, but it is welcomed and is viewed as an endorsement of a business. And a CEO views paying back a debt as an honorable thing to do whereas defaulting on debt as a deplorable thing to do.

        However, I can see someone outside of the executive suite having a dislike for the word debt.

        In any case, even though we disagree on this issue, I enjoy reading your work and respect your point of view.

        • Greg - you are right, it is the term “debt” that I don’t like, although you make an interesting point about how a CEO views the term.

          I’ve always admired the work that Sales Benchmark Index does as well and follow your blog regularly.

          Thanks for commenting!

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